Roles · Mind and words
Degrader
What it is
A Degrader enjoys humiliating or degrading a partner who wants it, through words, tasks or situations.
What it can look like
Name-calling the partner has okayed. Embarrassing tasks. Making a partner feel small in a way that turns them on.
Often pairs with
Not the same as
Being cruel. A Degrader only uses words and acts that were agreed, and cares how their partner feels afterwards.
Doing it safely
Some words hit real wounds. Agree exactly which names and topics are fine and which are off limits. Aftercare is a big deal here: remind your partner what you really think of them.
Talking about it
"Would you like it if I called you names? Which ones?"
Basics covers consent, safewords, limits and aftercare for every role.