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Vanilla
What it is
Vanilla means being happy without kink. Affection, closeness and ordinary intimacy are what you're after.
What it can look like
Cuddles, romance and plain old sex. Maybe a bit of curiosity, maybe none.
Often pairs with
Anyone who's happy with it, and other vanilla people.
Not the same as
Boring. Vanilla is a preference, just like any other.
Doing it safely
All the same consent rules apply. Talk about what you like.
Talking about it
"I'm pretty vanilla, and I'm happy that way. What do you like?"
Basics covers consent, safewords, limits and aftercare for every role.